Name: Shayla Dancy
FB: Shayla Wright-Dancy
- The closest I felt to God in my life was….(finish the sentence)
I was going through losing the daughter I’ve always wanted and fighting for my life.
- If you could thank God for just one incident in your life what would it be and why?
For blessing me with my daughter and her saving my life.
- If you could name a turning point in your life with your relationship with God what would it be and why?
When I found out that we were expecting I just knew it was another boy. After 5 boys why would we have a girl. But the Lord blessed us with Deshay. But just one month after finding out we were having a daughter she was gone. I was so angry with God. I was mad because I felt why would you have us get excited to have her only to take her away before we could enjoy life with her. But what I did not know was I was about to lose my own life had I continued to carry her full term. A lot of people don’t know that we were given the option to terminate the pregnancy because I had cysts growing in me that were taking away from her so she wasn’t growing but they were killing me. My doctor said that I should have been in pain but I wasn’t, I should have been weak, and had all these symptoms but I had not one. But the Lord did what only he can do and that was bring life into someone who was suppose to not be able too. That was is way of showing me what was going on inside my body. Had I not been pregnant I would have never found out about those large cysts until it was too late. So after I lost her and I got a phone call from one of our Deacons(who is stubborn and won’t take no for an answer) and telling him I didn’t want to talk, he demanded I listen to him. He was our daughters God Father. He said to me that he knows I’m hurting but he has something that may make me feel worse but it will be the truth. He said Shayla knowing God, I know he wouldn’t take you through this without you getting something from it. Your ALIVE!!! He said what I’m about to say is going to make you mad at me but I didn’t know the baby. I don’t have a relationship with the baby, I don’t have Love for the baby the way I have Love for you and with me saying that I’m so glad God spared you. He said I would be so hurt if he had taken you. I would hurt for my brother, for my nephews, and even my wife. Then he said your baby girl did what she was brought here to do and that was to save her Mommy’s life and nothing else. He said you need to see it that way Shayla. She saved you!!! After that I started Thanking God everyday. I prayed everyday for my health, for my life, and just because he is sooo good. My Faith in him has never changed since that day. I had 3 friends that came to visit me within the next day after losing my baby girl and hearing their stories helped me understand how things happen. They have no idea how just sitting there in silence helped me. I Love those ladies so much.
- What have you learned through your testimony?
I’ve learned that just because you feel a certain way it doesn’t me God doesn’t love you, or he is working something out on your behalf.
- Did you face any mental barriers? If so, what were they and how did you overcome them?
Yes I did, I was shut in and withdrawn from a lot of people. I blamed myself for the entire thing. I overcame those barriers by praying everyday. Keeping my mind cleared of all evil things.
- What specific bible verse helped you through?
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
- If there was one thing you would tell yourself 10 years ago what would it be?
You will be Ok!!!
- Is there anything else you would like to share?